1. Acknowledge the problems in your relationship. Many time couples don't talk about what their troubles are or even understand what they are themselves. Know the root of your conflicts. Saving a relationship begins with understanding the underlying problems.
2. Be rational and calm. Don't resort to petty bickering and defensive arguing. If that is where the relationship is, get a third party (like a relationship counselor) to help you speak to each other, and not at each other. Really listen to what your partner is saying before you take your turn to speak.
3. Take some time apart if the arguing is getting too overwhelming. This will give you both time to calm down and time to miss each other. This will take pressure off both of you and give you time to think about your relationship. Space will help you set your emotions and thoughts in order.
4. Agree to disagree. You don't both have to agree on everything. Be open to respecing each others' point of view. You are two individuals after all, not one.
5. Work as a team. Saving a relationship requires both of you to make an effort. If only one of you is making the effort its going to be a lot harder to save the relationship.
6. Be patient. Don't push your partner into trying to fix it all right now. All relationships take time to mend and heal when things go wrong. Time, effect and patience is what is needed now.
7. Take it slowly. Don't go rushing back into the relationship like there wasn't anything wrong to begin with. Have long talks about what you both want in your relationship and agree to work slowly on them. Rushing only creates frustration and fear.
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