Break Up Reasons: Five Of The Most Common

There are common break up reasons for why people get dumped.  If you are in that category, I’m SORRY!  I know how painful it can be. Believe me, I have had my share. But you know what they say, this is a learning and growing opportunity. So with that motherly-like advice, let’s take a look at five of the most common break up reasons.

Common break up reasons:1. You cheated on your ex! If you cheated on your ex and now realize what a terrible mistake you made, there is hope for you. You do have a chance of GETTING YOUR EX BACK, but it will take lots of work and some serious changes on your part. But first ask yourself why you cheated and if you really want to be with this person – because cheating is sometimes a sign that you really didn’t want to be in the relationship.

2. You weren’t fully committed is another one of the most common break up reasons. If you spent more time with your friends, at work, your dog/cat, the neighbor down the street… then with your partner, chances are you really didn’t want to be in this relationship (even if you were not consciously aware of it). And it might be time to move on.

3. You tried to change your partner. People say this is what women are always trying to do to men. (Can you blame us?) But men are guilty of this one as well. If you were trying to change your ex boyfriend, then think about you reasons for doing so. Did you really appreciate him for who he was? Or were you just with him because he were a second best to what/who you really wanted. If that’s the case, don't settle for second best - move on and find the real man of your dreams.

4. Jealousy is another of the most common break up reasons. If you turn into the ugly green monster when in a relationship, that’s about you – not your partner. If you were constantly suspicious and jealous then you were poisoning that relationship. And the best thing you can do is work on your self-esteem. When you have high self esteem, you won’t turn into the green monster because you will realize that you are worth being loved.

5. Incompatibility! And last, but not least, of the most common break up reasons is incompatibility. If you had lots in common but have grown apart and in different directions, then maybe it is time to look for someone more compatible with you. But if you’re still madly in love with your ex boyfriend, then you need to find new things that you have in common. Make a commitment (this needs to come from both of you) to finding new passions and interests to share. It is doable, but both of you must be committed to doing this.

If you fit into one of these categories and realize that you do want to reunite with your ex - and you’re willing to do the work to not just get back together but to make yourself a better person -then bravo for you. I wish you the best of luck.